Question: Why do Christian families get divorced? Why is there so little happiness in these families? Why don’t people stand up for their love and why do these marriages fall apart?
Answer, Nadezhda Ulyanenko: I have been married for 19 years, but I just honestly and sincerely believe that marriage is a blessing, and children are a blessing. From the ministry that we have, I see that it is very important to understand that the community is a family, this is the place where you can really solve any problems. Very often people say that “we repeat the problems in marriage because our parents had problems.” I want to say right away – I grew up in an incomplete family, I was raised by one mother and I didn’t physically see my father … I was still raised by my grandparents, but why am I saying this, the community is a family, this is my home, here they helped me to grow up physically and build the right relationships. Marriage is not something separate from God’s life.
Boris Grisenko: You know, this is not an obvious truth. A lot of believers have a lot of problems due to the fact that they still have not understood anything about this most important truth.
Nadezhda Ulyanenko: A family is not like there is a desert, but I have a “piece of paradise” in my family. It doesn´t matter how I treat others and in my family I just have peace and quiet…
I sincerely believe that the family is the place that the Lord wanted to make as a piece of heaven on earth, and so it should be. But at the same time, I sincerely believe that it is impossible to be happy together with your husband and children, and treat other people however you like. That doesn’t happen. Therefore, if we are talking about why Christian couples break up, it must be said that the point is not that this is a Christian couple, but the point is what kind of believers they are, how they followed the Lord, how they sought Him, whether He is their Lord, whether they really humble themselves before Him. When people are humble before the Lord, they will yield to each other, wives will not “eat out the brains” of their husbands, husbands will not humiliate their wives, because next to you is a person who is really given to you by God for life. This person needs to be loved, and then there will be much less questions like “why is there no peace in my family?”
You just need to follow the Lord. If there are problems in marriage, you need to talk with your spiritual mentors, ask, “Maybe there are some adjustments and instructions for me as a believer? Because I have problems in marriage…” Problems with loved ones show that you have problems with following the Lord.
Seminar “About it” at the KEMO retreat, 28.08.2013
Source: https://ieshua.org/vopros-answer-pro-eto-pochemu-hristianskie-semi-neschastny-i-razvodyatsya.htm
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