When judgmental Christians hurt you

You are trying to do good. Well, or at least you want it. It really is.

You believe—at least most of you believe—that by doing what God does, you do what is best. But every time you try to take a step forward, it looks like judgmental Christians are circumcising you, pointing out your mistakes and acting like they’re too righteous to associate with you. They point out your sins to you and try to keep you from doing what God has asked you to do. This is discouraging.

You may have heard the expression that you should look to Jesus and not to people. This is right. But how to behave under a “friendly fire”?

In one of our last surveys, I heard from several people that they suffered in the name of God. The young man wrote, “The biggest pain in my life has been caused by Christians, and the worst thing is that they are using God to hurt me.” A woman experiencing rejection in her Church writes: “The Bible speaks of Christians supporting each other when we fail. Often people are too prejudiced against restoring someone.” Perhaps, while reading these lines, you also experience heaviness or even pain.

I had to go through this. I was also wounded in the Name of God. I know that some of those who hurt me didn’t do it on purpose, some did it because they were hurt themselves. Some did it directly and consciously. And it hurts.

If you have been wounded in the name of God, then my heart mourns with you. And I want to give you some hope. I pray that you understand and accept this.

The Truth About the Wounds Inflicted on You by Christians

Judgment, blame, manipulation and control always come from the enemy. Satan, not God, is “the accuser of our brethren” (Rev. 12:10). “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Rom. 8:1). Regardless of the truth of what is said about you “This is the tactics of the enemy. Yes, they will hurt us, but it is not God who causes these wounds.”

Jesus will always accept you if you come to Him. There is nothing you can do to make Him love you less. There can be nothing so bad that He won’t welcome you openly. “Whatever the Father gives Me will come to Me; and whoever comes to me I will not cast out” (John 6:37). You cannot surprise or shock Him. Because He is interested, there is always the possibility of a new beginning, a restoration. Those who know God show this spirit of restoration first.

Jesus will not leave you the same and in the same condition as He found you. He accepts you as you are, unconditionally. But He won’t leave you the way He found you. The steps we take will have consequences, and He will not always deliver us from the pain of those consequences. His grace is strong enough to change us, to make us like Him: “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.” (2 Cor. 3 :18). He asks no less of us.

Christians who inflict wounds usually don’t change themselves. Very often, those who judge others struggle with sin in other areas of their lives. Sometimes their own sins or wounds make them more aware of your problem and they lash out at you to divert attention from their own problems.

Helping other believers find healing and recovery includes both acceptance and change. His disciples who spent time with Jesus knew that He accepted them. But they also knew that anything less than holiness was unacceptable. To stay with Him, they had to leave their sinful lives. “You shouldn’t live like this!” – this phrase says everything about Jesus. He gave them the opportunity to change, and He also required this of them. Those who know God best help other believers through this process.

Judgment from the enemy and chastisement from the Holy Spirit are very different. Judgment gives you a feeling of darkness and hopelessness, and binds you to your past. The word of conviction from the Holy Spirit brings light and hope and offers you a path to transformation into new life through forgiveness and repentance. If other believers only condemn you, it is not from God. If they are calling you to something better, it may be the work of the Holy Spirit.

So what do you do if you are hurt and in desperate need of healing or restoration?

How to get healed

Separate God from the toxic pseudo-god talk you hear. This may be easier said than done, at least at first. Sometimes this means moving away from believers who are a toxic, judgmental religion. Spend more time searching for God on your own—reading and delving into His word, praying.

Accept the decision to let God change you. Listen when the Holy Spirit points His finger at something in your soul and says, “It’s right here: I want it. Let me take it and change you.” Let Him fully do the necessary work.

Stay in God’s presence long enough. God cares most about your heart, and you should also care about it the most. Be where His presence is, whether in nature or when you worship on your own in church. Stay there long enough for Him to serve you, and He will do it. Come again and again into His presence.

I know God weeps when some of His children hurt others in His name. He wants to heal you, to change you to lead you to the full and vibrant life that He has for you. Don’t stop ahead of time!

By Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley / charismamag.com

Source: https://ieshua.org/kogda-osuzhdayushhie-hristiane-ranyat-vas.htm

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